" You may have all the love and best intentions for your teenager but if you don't do some inner work and develop the necessary science-based skills to respond intentionally to your child, you, your relationship and your teenager will suffer in the long-run "
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Studies show strained relationships between parents and adolescents have been linked to a range of negative life outcomes including:
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Increased risk your child develops mental health problems such as depression, anxiety or substance abuse problems
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Increased risk you too develop such mental health issues at some point
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Increased risk your child learns unhealthy ways of relating to others and ends up falling into unhealthy relationship dynamics in the long-run.
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Increased risk your child starts acting out in self-destructive ways as a coping mechanism to release the pain of not having a good relationship with you.
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Increased risk your teenager loses touch with who they are, what matters to them and ends up living a life that is not fulfilling to them in the long-run.
The relationship you have with your child today is so important in shaping your wellbeing and your child’s long term wellbeing.
As a parent, it's essential that you show up as a conscious figure in your teenager's life, so that you can best support them and be a positive force during this crucial time.
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Unfortunately, however, parents and teenagers often have weak and conflictual relationships.
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Mainly because of 2 reasons:
1 The particularly sensitive period of adolescence:
Adolescents undergo huge hormonal and cognitive changes that lead to a particularly emotional brain state.
The part of their brain responsible for emotions is growing dramatically, and the part of their brain that is necessary to regulate these emotions is still very underdeveloped.
This is why teenager often feel self-conscious, act impulsively, experience ups and downs in mood, compare themselves to peers, have body image issues, feel irritable, stressed etc.
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And on a psychological level, adolescents experience an increasing need for independence and autonomy. They want to feel like their feelings and beliefs are respected and that they are in charge of their life.
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So that's the first reason why you may be experiencing an especially difficult relationship with your child.
2 Your self-sabotaging patterns get activated as a parent:
This stage can be the most challenging time for you emotionally as a parent. Because stress activates our insecurities and limiting beliefs, it brings back these self-sabotaging patterns you’ve developed when you were younger.
For example, you may have a tendency to micromanage your teenager's behaviors, to overly focus on their academics & achievements or to strive for perfection.
You may often blame yourself or blame them. You may avoid confronting important situations to avoid unpleasant feelings.
You may worry excessively about your teen's wellbeing. You may often feel overwhelmed with your emotions and struggle to shift to a positive mindset.
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You may have a people-pleasing tendency.
You may have a hyper-rational tendency and struggle to empathize with your teen's feelings.
By not doing the inner work to understand how these patterns are impacting your relationship with your teenager and developing the science-based skills to break the cycle and form healthier patterns, your relationship will struggle and you won't be as connected to your child as you both truly want.
This can lead you to have a conflictual or superficial relationship with your child, which will harm your wellbeing and the long-term wellbeing of your teenager.
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What often happens is that teenagers end up internalizing various aspects of the dynamic with their parent, and begin forming negative beliefs about themselves, others and the world around them.
Your relationship is truly the foundation through which they form their their sense of self during the crucial developmental period of adolescence.
That's exactly why I offer 1:1 coaching for parents of teenagers like you, to help you show up in a positive and conscious way so that you can enjoy a strong and fulfilling relationship with your child throughout your life.
Together, we can address these negative patterns you've been struggling to break free from and develop a healthier relationship with your teenager, helping them develop confidence, resilience, and the ability to thrive as they transition to adulthood, all the while nurturing your wellbeing.
What’s inside the conflict resolution packageS ?
Note: All these sessions are with you, the parent. That being said, I do have packages specifically for your teen. Click here if you are interested in this or we can discuss that on a call.
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Option 1: 8-week package: Lifetime foundation to show up consciously in your relationship with your teenager
Total: 8 one-on-one coaching sessions via Zoom (approx 45 mins)
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Session 1 to Session 8:
Build the lifetime foundation to identify your patterns harming your relationship with your teenager & others, build mental resilience and develop the skills to show up consciously, including when conflicts and challenging situations show up.
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What's also included:
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Personalized 1:1 support in between sessions.
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Private app
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Access to exclusive video trainings​ you can watch whenever you have time
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Access to daily practical exercises to integrate learnings into day-to-day
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Access to private community if you wish to interact with others on the same journey
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Option 2: 12-week package: Become an expert at showing up consciously in the face of challenges and improving your relationship with your teenager
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Total: 12 one-on-one coaching sessions via Zoom (approx 45 mins)
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Session 1 to Session 8:
Build the lifetime foundation to identify the patterns harming your relationship with your teenager & others, build mental resilience and develop the skills to show up consciously, including when conflicts and challenging situations show up.
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Session 9 to 12:
Become an expert at mental fitness to continue strengthening your relationship with your teenager​.
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What's also included:
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Personalized 1:1 support in between sessions.
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Private app
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Access to exclusive video trainings​ you can watch whenever you have time
Access to daily practical exercises to integrate learnings into day-to-day
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Access to private community if you wish to interact with others on the same journey
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Coaching will help you…
Develop a stronger & deeper relationship with your teenager
Develop the science-based skills to better deal with challenges & conflicts you are experiencing with your teenager
Learn to respond more wisely and positively to your teenager's behaviour
Promote the resilience and wellbeing of your teenager during a time that is so important for them and their future.
Feel less stressed and overwhelmed, more calm, at peace and fulfilled.
About me:
Hello! I'm Nour, a certified Identity, Resilience & Wellbeing coach with an M.A in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University.
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I help parents of teens and young adults resolve conflicts and repair relationships with their child/ren through 1:1 and group coaching to strengthen their connection, nurture their own, as well as their children’s, mental and emotional wellbeing, and ensure that their child thrives as they transition into adulthood.
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I also offer an online course for parents of children 4 -12 to develop science-based skills to show ups as positive and conscious role models to their children.
